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October 2011
Interdependence: The Perfect Hybrid
In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.
Erich Fromm
Independence and dependency both have their functions, but they are undeniably arch-enemies to love.
WhenLoveWorks, couples tap into the balance found in interdependency and simultaneously enjoy reciprocity and self preservation like never before. ~ Elitia Mattox
Attentiveness Deficit Disorder
Don’t mistake your mate being attentive to not losing you, with being attentive. ~ Cullen Mattox
If you’ve been clear with your partner about your desired level of attentiveness and you find he or she is unwilling or unable to comply, then it’s your responsibility to make the next move.
WhenLoveWorks, we’re first attentive to ourselves, which in turn enables us to distinguish genuine attentiveness from the motive driven kind. ~ Elitia Mattox
Credit Risk
…love covers over all wrongs ~ Proverbs 10:12
We have to resist the temptation to abuse grace afforded us under the umbrella of Love. It’s nice to be loved unconditionally, but using this umbrella to bankroll our apathy, laziness and selfishness is the same as abusing credit.
WhenLoveWorks, people honor their mate’s risk with a mutual effort that affirms their decision. ~ Elitia Mattox
